I’ve been reading a lot of leadership literature recently. A theme keeps appearing.
Define the values you want to live by. Use them as the foundation for your career and leadership style.
Typically, they will define the values you should follow for you.
And some will focus on how to get others to share those values.
Interestingly, I haven’t been in too many workplaces where values are deeply discussed – beyond “You really ought to have these values.”
- I don’t know how many people have deeply thought about the values they hold. There’s not much in our society that encourages this.
- If they have thought about values, it’s more because someone has told them they should hold these values vs. questioning why they hold these values and whether the values they are holding (that they may have gotten from elsewhere) still work for them. Again, there is not much encouragement in our society for this level of reflection.
- If they are confident in the values they hold, their workplace is not a safe place to discuss these values. Especially if the values they hold contradict either the stated values or the behavioral values.
I’m thinking that helping to cultivate a safe environment for deeply reflecting on, then sharing, personal values is key.
If I’m going to try and create this space for someone else, this looks like questioning, staying curious, and being open to the answer.
Most importantly, not trying to shift someone else’s values to look like mine.
I’m thinking more 1-1 time, being clear and open about the values I hold, and doing my best to deeply listen is part of it too.
What are the values you hold?
Why do you hold them?
What does a safe space for discussing values look like to you?
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