Thursday, December 14, 2017

How Do You Want to Feel This Year?

I will be launching a new service in January 2018 that will help you create clarity around your goals, certainty about what to do, and help you provide a greater impact on your work environment.

In the meantime, I’d like to share a free PDF containing a useful personal prioritization exercise to help you get started.



I hope you can join me on this journey!

Part of my annual planning this year was to work through The Desire Map by Danielle LaPorte (Amazon affiliate link).

Ms. LaPorte’s argument – we do what we do because we want to feel a certain way.

Why do I pursue certifications even after I earned two graduate degrees? Why am I working towards a double bodyweight deadlift? Why do I give to charity?  Why do I try to go out to lunch with friends at least 1x per week?

There are lots of reasons, but fundamentally I am aiming for “happy.”  Or any of its variants.

After working through her exercises, I came up with the following five feelings:

  • Contentment
  • Confidence
  • Loving
  • Relaxed
  • Joyful

Two recommendations while doing today’s exercise:

    • Focus on terms that resonate with you.  For example, I am uncomfortable with the word “happy” because the term seems a bit manic.  “Joyful,” to me, seems more serene. Plus, “Happy” reminds me of this video:


  • Focus on the feelings that do not require someone else’s action to occur.  For example, “loved” implies that someone else loves me.  “Loving” is something I can control.

Grab pen and paper, or open a word document and let’s get going!


Today’s assignment:

How do you want to feel this year?

Take 2 minutes and free write any words that come up.

Set it aside.  Review it tomorrow.  Any new words?  Any synonyms?

Over the weekend – narrow that list down to 3-5 core feelings.


The Desire Map: A Guide to Creating Goals with Soul (Amazon affiliate link)- I recommend this if you want to do a comprehensive deep-dive on this exercise. Her questions allow for a deeper exploration and an eye-opening analysis of your current state and emotional patterns.

Atlas of Emotions – an interactive tool based on Paul Ekman’s research on emotions as universal categories.  If emotional identification isn’t your thing – The Atlas of Emotions narrows your choices down to 5.  Choose 1 (and I’m taking bets on which one you will choose).

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